As soon as we think we arrived and figured it all out something changes that swings us upside down. As we walk through life we get to occasionally rest, reflect and recover. But don’t get to comfortable. The way of life is not to arrive anywhere. It’s a journey until the end. Although, the resting points gets me every time. I take my clothes off, get cozy and comfortable. I forget that this is not where I’m going to hang out forever.
How do we become more comfortable with the unknown and with the changes that occur. How do we not lose our sense of what is even with a brief sense of stillness.
The answer for me has been the practice of non attachment. It’s a hard one personally. I easily forget and when I like something or someone I want to keep it. Forgetting that nothing is ever mine gets me into trouble. When separation and change comes my way the pain is inevitable. When I remember to let life flow through me, the echo of a pleasant moment is forever.
If you cling on to whats been you’re living in the past, which is not serving you in the present moment. You are living in your memories and missing out on your life, which is happening now. One of the Gurus I listen to once said that the past is a graveyard, so is also clinging to the future. It all removes your attention and awareness away from here and now.
Why is that a bad thing one can ask. Well, you're missing out on what is and choosing to live in a dream. You can only remember your past now. You can only dream about the future now. What does that make your present moment if you’re not here to witness it because you're simply busy dreaming?
The non attachment practice does not only apply to material things or people. It also concerns your thoughts and desires, your own body and feelings. When you remember that nothing is ever yours to keep forever you open your heart, you enjoy what is and appreciation and gratitude grows out of what was once drams and desires.
If you are awake to the present moment you will see that whatever you need will come to you, without you trying anything. If you are here (not busy chasing a dream or clinging on to one) you will notice that it all comes together beautifully and you will be present enough to enjoy it.